Sunday, March 16, 2014

Can You Fathom Your Thoughts Into One Meaningful System?

Can You Fathom Your Thoughts Into One Meaningful System?

The other day, I was talking with my two youngest children. We were just finishing up a bible study and I was talking with them about understanding how to relate what they truly value, what God wants us to value, with what we want to do. My point was to illustrate how confusing life can be when we don't make a habit of always trying to understand the connection between what we decide to do in any given situation with the very simple but powerful concepts that represent the kinds of "goodness" we all say we value.

My daughter looked at me and said, "My thoughts are stars I cannot fathom into constellations." 

"It was in the book I just read, 'The Fault in Our Stars," by John Green."

"Do you understand what it means?"

"Hmmm, kind of," she shrugged. 

"Well, there must be a reason why you said it just now."

"Well, it kind of made sense with what you were talking about."  

WOW! I can't tell you how amazed I was at that point in time by the insight my 12-year old daughter had just shared with me. 
christy1521:

My thoughts are stars I can’t fathom into constellations.
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That quote represents, I believe, a fundamental cause of our human weaknesses. We all know what "good" means and we know what is "good." We just don't take the time to always understand how the people and things we interact with in this world can make it very difficult to see the connection between a decision we need to make at any given point in time and what is truly "good". 

A constellation is a series of connections, a network, a system of otherwise disconnected bodies which someone, at some point in time, connected in a way that created meaning for them. 

What I want to help my children with more than anything, is to recognize their values as stars; bright shining beacons of "goodness" which, when they connect them together and link them to the decisions they make and the actions they take, create a system of "goodness". The key is to always focus on the "stars" in our lives, constantly consider them and pay attention to the choices ahead of us.

We all have the ability to make the connections. To see the linkages in our lives between what we're meant to be doing, living by our core values, and the choices we are forced to make. It's not always easy. The world we live in makes it very confusing. That's why I put so much focus on core values. When we allow them to be the primary drivers of our decisions we dramatically increase our chances to make "good" decisions. We do things that make us feel satisfied with ourselves. We give ourselves the opportunity to be truly happy.