Friday, July 26, 2013

Why Are People Afraid of Success?

Why Are People Afraid of Success?
In every Situation, we make a Decision, take an Action (Behavior) and there is a Result.  This cycle is repeated continuously.



Every Result can be placed into four categories.  I call them "The Four Universal Results: Reward, Status Quo, Punishment Avoidance and Punishment.  


What we want are the Rewards.  

Seeking valuable Rewards requires Risk of Punishment.  We don't want Punishment so we tend to operate in our Comfort Zone, the place where we feel safe because the situation doesn't change.



The balance we have a tendency to seek by remaining in our Comfort Zone is intended to mitigate Risk of Punishment as we seek Rewards which means we limit our potential to truly grow.

I propose when we allow "The Four Universal Results" to be our primary drivers, we become most limited and fearful.  I call this "The External Results Model" (shown later).  

Before we try to find "Success" we need to understand what we truly value. 


 When we truly want to live according to our Core Values, we have less concern with the externally controlled and temporal results and more focus on being the person we want to be.

If we overlay the Core Values diamond over the The Four Universal Results, we can begin to recognize several insights:
1)  When we place the primary focus of our Decision-Making and resulting Behaviors on the person we want to be, our Core Values Inspire us to expand our Comfort Zone. 

2)  It's possible to be the person we want to be and enjoy the Results we desire when circumstances allow (Green, inside the Blue).  

3) Sometimes getting the Results we desire causes us to be someone other than the person we want to be (Green, outside the blue).  

4)  Often, being the person we want to be means nothing changes for us and we're stuck with the same Situation we were in before we decided to act (Yellow & Orange, inside the Blue).  

5) Sometimes, when we're not the person we want to be, nothing really changes either, but we don't have any control over that, do we?

6) Bad things can happen to us whether we choose to be the person we want to be, or not!

Life-Long Success happens when our Behaviors are in alignment with our Core Values.  We are afraid to succeed when we are afraid to be the person we WANT to be.


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Monday, July 22, 2013

Six Steps to Shortening Your Path to Life-Long Success


I recently wrote an article for exploreb2b.com, an internet platform designed to fulfill the mission to "change and drastically improve Business to Business communications worldwide."  The article, "Six Steps to Shortening Your Path to Life-Long Success," is focused on providing some simple strategies anyone can follow to focus their efforts on what they can control to achieve Life-Long Success.   I hope you enjoy it.

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Tuesday, July 9, 2013

“What You Do Speaks So Loudly...”


“What You Do Speaks So Loudly...”


I recently read, and re-tweeted a quote on Twitter. It was something Ralph Waldo Emerson once said, “What you do speaks so loudly that I cannot hear what you say.” (Thanks Bruce Van Horn for posting this tweet!) 


When I read it, I immediately thought about how Emerson’s words align so well with GPS Theory, the application we created at BoomLife to help people recognize the difference between their stated values and their behaviors by seeking feedback from the people in their World. 

Some people ask me, “Won’t people feel criticized when they’re shown the gaps between their actions and their words?”  Criticism is not the point and anyone who would be offended by receiving honest and accurate feedback after asking for it really isn't serious about what they say is important to them.

GPS Theory is not…a platform for “pushing” criticism onto others.  It’s a “pull” system, meaning no one is going to use it to provide honest and accurate feedback if it's not requested.  If someone doesn’t want to know the truth about themselves then GPS Theory is simply not for them. We're not here to help anyone who wants to stay in one place, we're here to help people who want to grow.

GPS Theory is…a platform for improving relationships with the people in your world by: 
  • Sharing the person you want to be with the people you care about.
  • Allowing them to share with you ways you can improve as a friend, as a family member, as a co-worker, as a teammate, as a human being.  Don't ever underestimate the value of the gift of letting other people help you!
  • Truly taking their feedback to heart and trying to do better.  The people in your World will see what you show them and reflect it back to you.
  • Helping others on their own paths to Life-Long Success!
Emerson’s words are an eloquent way to express a sentiment that has been widely shared through human history- Actions speak louder than words!  Does that make the words we use meaningless?  Not by a long shot! The intent of the message is to remind us to make sure our words and actions harmonize with each other.

What amazing things can happen in your life when your actions "say" the same things about you as your words do?  Consider this question:

WHAT WORDS DO YOU WANT OTHER PEOPLE TO USE TO DESCRIBE YOU AND THE LIFE YOU'VE LIVED? 

It's a powerful question, isn't it?  GPS Theory provides you with the means to find out what the people in your World would reflect back to you when you ask for the truth, so you can learn and grow!


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When you VALUE yourself, you INSPIRE yourself! BOOM!

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Tom Eakin
Success Engineer, BoomLife
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