1) Values-Driven Success happens when you get what you want AND you are the person you want to be.
So, it's important, critical really, to identify what you want AND the person you want to be. Living the life you want depends on identifying the destination these criteria define.
Life-Long Success happens when you get what you want AND are the person you want to be! #SuccessEngineer #GPSTheory2) What you want AND the person you want to be are not as easy to understand as they seem.
— Tom Eakin (@goBoomLife) August 21, 2013
I recently read an interesting article titled, "How Facebook (FB) is Altering Your Mind." In it,David Rainoshek helps us understand a powerful biochemical human behavioral driver, dopamine, and its effect on our habits. While this article is intended to explain why it's easy to become addicted to Facebook, what I took away was the application of this biochemical impact on all aspects of our lives. I believe the concepts discussed in the article reinforce the principles behind The External Rewards Model I developed to compare and constrast with my GPS Theory Model (see my previous article, "Why Are People Afraid of Success?").
When we follow the External Results
Model, our focus is on seeking rewards, avoiding punishments, or trying to keep our situation from changing, depending on the circumstances we're facing at any given time. In the GPS Theory Model, the primary focus is on our Core Values.
Rainoshek cites an article by Krista Peck who provides an easy to understand description of dopamine's powerful influence in our drive to seek rewards. Rainoshek and Peck explain why people are less productive in their lives due to the dopamine rush created when we engage with various internet social media channels in search of rewards such as entertaining releases from the stresses of our world (jokes, games, etc.), great deals on material items or recognition, attention, and affection from the people we interact with directly and indirectly online. According to Peck, studies indicate we don't get the same rush when we actually receive rewards as we do while we are actually working towards getting them. Therefore we are driven to constantly seek rewards and when we get them the dopamine supply stops compelling us to look for more. I propose we get the same rush when we are in a situation where we are trying to avoid a punishment. The concept of rewards and punishments does not only apply to the internet. We perceive rewards and punishments in virtually every situation where risk is involved. The important questions to ask are:
- Is the majority of my time spent seeking results that add real value?
- Do my decisions and actions contribute to situations where there is a need to avoid punishments?
In cases where we focus only on The External Results Model, we sometimes confuse rewards with punishments, especially when an addiction has developed. For example, time spent on Facebook looking for little "gold nuggets" increases the dopamine rush at the cost of irreplaceable time. The truth is, every tick-tock cycle of the clock indicates another morsel of time has passed which will never come again. So, wasting time on the internet is truly a self-inflicted punishment. Because of the effect of dopamine, we perceive a greater value in seeking something of value in a place where it only exists temporally. When you think about it, don't all bad habits have the same wasteful effect? Thinking about getting what you want AND being the person you want to be, what do you really want? Are you really doing what it takes to get it?
4. The only constant in life is change...so you must change!
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You can limit the negative influences of the dopamine rush on your productivity when you have the mindset for Values-Driven Success. Once you know and accept the fact that you'll always struggle to get what you want AND be the person you want to be you can look at every reward as merely a step toward a destination and not the destination itself. You can avoid the spiritual and emotional pitfalls created when the dopamine drip stops after every accomplishment if you focus on doing what it takes to make the next step happen instead of getting the result. This mindset also provides you with the emotional and spiritual foundation you need to keep going when some of the steps you take do not reap the rewards you seek. Rather than feeling like the destination is impossible and unattainable, perceptions that tend to create feelings of depression and hopelessness, you will simply recognize the need for additional steps. Further, by devaluing the result of each step you lower the magnitude of the impact the dopamine has on your drive to take it. When you get to this mindset, it becomes much easier to make the choice between the easy good feeling that comes from wasteful addictive habits and the more challenging and difficult things you really need to do to reach your destination.
"The road to success is always under construction." -Lily Tomlin #business #leadership5. There is one thing we can control...
— Cameron (@ManagersDiary) August 20, 2013
When you follow the GPS Theory Model, your primary focus is on your Core Values and your decisions and behaviors become driven to make decisions and take actions you expect to influence your situation in the ways you want them to. When you continuously try to follow this model you remain on the path to Values-Driven Success.
“The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”
― Viktor E. Frankl
Instead of intense emotional highs followed by extreme lows, you find the means to gain a consistently positive outlook. You're not where you want to be, perhaps, but you're moving in the right direction. So, you drive on! You perceive you can take on all challenges, refusing to quit just because everything isn't going your way! By mastering your mindset, the way you plan, decide and behave, you master your attitude!
The most important part of life, and the only part of life that we can truly control, is our perception. #TDL6. If you want your situation to change, you have to lead the change.
— Mastin Kipp (@TheDailyLove) August 19, 2013
There is no getting around it. You can and must create the changes in the conditions (relationships, other people, environment, challenges, finances, etc.) you believe will have the greatest positive impact on your situation by taking definitive and decisive actions that will get you on, and keep you on, the path to getting what you want AND being the person you want to be. It doesn't matter what you've accomplished in the past. The mistakes you've made do not need to be repeated and do not need to limit what you're capable of. The only thing that matters is what you will do next!
The next time you're feeling the dopamine rush in anticipation of a dubious reward that you recognize will cost you valuable time and effort to seek, ask yourself:
- What is the real value of this reward?
- Am I spending my resources right now doing something that will help me get what I want AND be the person I want to be within the context of Life-Long Success?
- Can I afford to keep doing this?
- Should I change this habit/behavior?
- What should I do instead? (NOTE: I believe the word "should" is only effective when we apply it to ourselves. Applying it to others (as in "He should...," "You should...," or "People should..." versus "I should...") is a habit that reduces personal accountability and creates false expectations.)
Be less concerned with what you're going to GET and think more about what you're going to DO. #Smile & Move
— Sam & The Smovers (@Give_More) August 19, 2013
My own long and winding path has been rife with self-inflicted obstacles. I constantly strive to overcome them in my own pursuit of Values-Driven Success. What I've learned is that life creates enough challenges for a person to deal with without creating more through ill-formed decision-making and poorly chosen behaviors. I encourage you to start taking steps to evaluate what drives your decisions. Are you primarily driven to seek rewards, or your Core Values?
My Core Values inspire my efforts as the founder of BoomLife. I've been there- It's more than having credentials that indicate I'm qualified to help (although I have earned them). I've done that- It's more than an intellectual exercise for me (although I've invested a lot of brain cells in understanding how to get out of the holes I've dug and how to stop digging more). It's about practical experience in applying the principles of Values-Driven Success. I'm focused on helping people achieve Life-Long Success and I'm willing to do what it takes to help.
How can I help you start the change in your life that will make the difference between survival-mode and Values-Driven Success?
How can I help you get to a place where you will have the strength to help the people in your world?
To let you in on a little secret, we start by answering this fundamental question:
What words do you want other people to use to describe you and the life you've led?
The power to live those words is within you!
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